Have you ever experienced a love that is so strong that it makes your heart feel full? A heavy Love.
Over the past couple of days I have been listening to Mali Music. One of his songs is called Heavy Love (check it out on you tube). I love it.
It speaks of a love between a husband and wife that is all compassing and endures under much pressure. It’s a love that lasts 10, 20, 30, 40 years. Thats a lot of love.
My parents have been married for 52 years and it have been subject to all kinds of pressures as any marriage would be for that length of time. This kind of love has to be elasticated, tested and reaffirmed. This type of love has been put through the fire of life and is worth its weight in Gold.
We always admire marriages that have so much longevity but do we really appreciate the sacrifice that each person has had to go through in order to have such longevity. Marriage goes through the fiery furnace of financial struggles, In law issues, raising a family, personal growth and a host of other challenges. Let’s not take marital longevity for granted, it’s a heavy love. It’s taking responsibility to sustain something that both parties have entered into.
If you are a married Person reading this, never take your spouse for granted. Show them that you appreciate them, learn their love language. If you are a spouse that does not show much affection then you must do something about it quickly and find ways to show that you love and care, if not you can end up starving you spouse emotionally. Appreciate their acts of kindness towards you.
A heavy love will also include telling your Inlaws no and drawing needed boundaries. Toxic in-laws can crush the heart of your spouse and cause untold damage to them and defile your Union. I will be writing a post about in-laws shortly because parents must release their children to enjoy the person they have chosen to spend the rest of their lives with. When they interfere they crush the family unit of their children for selfish gain. Please release your adult son or daughter and allow them to blossom in their new relationship.
If you are courting someone with a view to marriage please begin to establish healthy boundaries with both sets of parents.
Heavy Love is a wonderful place to be but remember it comes with responsibilities.