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Taking Back Who You Are!

During periods of life you can give ourself away in the belief that the person you give yourself to will not take you for granted. When you give the best of yourself to someone and you have not taken the time to qualify the relationship, hurt and pain is inevitable.

I want to share with you three things that you may need to consider so you can take back who you are and start living the life that you were born to live. These three things are just to give you the push you may need to start this important process.

1. Learn to say no without feeling guilty.

2. Start investing in YOU ( take a course, start reading books that will empower you to make a change).

3. Use your failures and past mistakes to propel you forward.

Each of these points can take a life time to work out but the most important thing is for you to start working on yourself and for you to become the best person that you can be.

Why I Became a Life Coach!

Life coaching is something I have been doing for many years with out realizing that I was actually doing it. I love the challenge of motivating and coaching someone to see that best in themselves and for them to run with the vision and dream in their heart!

A life coach can help you to:

1. Make substantial personal change
2.Balance work and family
3.Reduce your stress levels
4.Find direction and support during transition
5. Help you move forward with something you have put off for far too long
6.Move forward by being a sounding board and receive feedback
7.Receive motivation and have accountability
8.Accomplish a dream or something important to you
9. Overcome chaos and create a simpler, more organized life
10. Discover your passions and values
11.Have a deeper sense of purpose
12.Design a life plan so you can accomplish your business and personal goals.
13.Improve relationships
14. Have more passion, happiness and fun in life so you can live a fulfilled life.

A life coach will also be your cheer leader who will coach you to win in life. I am your life coach and I will coach you to WIN!!

Here is the link to my Youtube video where I share my 3 reasons for becoming a coach and don’t forget to subscribe!!: CLICK HERE

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Book Review: “Everything” by Janine Cummings

I belong to an awesome Facebook woman’s book club called “Women Aspiring for More” led by Tammy Donaldson.  We recently read and reviewed a book called “Everything” by Janine Cummings.

This book shares the painful journey of Janine losing the love of her life,  who she calls “everything” throughout the book. It describes in detail the emotional pain she felt as she realised the relationship was coming to an end. I felt  the book provided a safe environment for her healing process to begin as Janine effectively and engagingly  poured her emotions out on paper.

Below are some of the points I shared whilst reviewing the book in the book club. I realised that as women we experience these same emotions when we feel we are losing a significant other or some thing precious in our life is ending:

  • Janine describes her desperation to holding on to a relationship that was not working and how she was willing to lower herself to become whatever “everything” wanted in order to keep him.
  • Its the story of a woman who also experienced redemption because after losing the love of “everything” she found HIS  love, the love of God.

I really commend Janine for wearing her heart on her sleeves  and would recommend this book  as a great read, as it demonstrates the process of a woman finding herself and her identity after the loss of  “everything”

 

Take a moment to check out the links below:

To purchase Janine’s Book CLICK HERE

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Book a FREE 15 minute coaching discovery call with me CLICK HERE

 

 

 

What is a Friend? (Story time! )

When I was younger I found it so difficult to make friend as I was painfully shy and I had a stutter. Some of the people I hung around with use to laugh at me and one person in particular use to pick on me during my first year in secondary school. It was so awful. My self esteem could not sink any lower than it already was.

I had a friend called Jasmine as primary school, she was my bestie and she would always hang out with me during play times and she alway stuck by me. I can never forget her!

I think friendships change as we get older because our needs change and things happen to us in life. Thinking about Jasmine made me think about the importance of great friendships. Below are some tips I tend to use when I am considering a friendship and I would like to share them with you.

A friend is….

  1. someone you can trust, who will not judge you
  2. someone who respects you and your time
  3. someone who respects your boundries
  4. someone who listens
  5. someone who gives you space when you need it and they are not overbearing
  6. someone who respects your right to change and grow.

In the comments below share with me your important aspects of friendship.

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Learning to love you = Managing your time

We all live very busy lives that makes time management a real challenge. However time management is needed so we can keep our life in some sort of order.

Our time is precious and we often give it away too freely to others who do not appreciate it. Those moments are valuable as we can never get them back. When you value your time you value who you are and it is important that we keep an eye on who we give it to.

Let me share some tips with you on managing your time and loving you.

  1. Don’t over extend your self ~ this is so important to remember as it  can lead to burn out. If something does not fit into your schedule then learn how to refuse it graciously and move on it. An over extended calendar does not do you any favours.
  2. Schedule sessions where you can have some down time and relax. you could take a walk, work out, go see movie etc. Down time is important as it gives your mind and body a chance to rejuvenate itself and rest.
  3. Learn how to say no without feeling guilty.

If you have not started then start today by loving you and mange your time.

 

Click the link below read some of my other posts:

Failures flaws & weakness have  purpose

Are you sabotaging your gifts?

 

October DV awareness month ~ Testimony from a Christian Domestic Abuse Survivor

 

October is Domestic Violence awareness month. so this week I will be sharing two stories from Christian women who have lived through this awful experience.

Today’s  blog post is from a Christian woman  I reached out to  and she agreed to write for my blog anonymously. To this special woman, thank you so much and you are truly one God’s best kept secrets!

There Go I…But For the Grace 

“Why don’t you just leave and come with me?” ”You don’t need him, he needs you!” “I don’t understand Cory (renamed), you’re smarter than this.” “You’re a social worker helping women get out the exact type of unhealthy environment that you yourself are in. These are the questions subtly hidden in the form of judgments that I offered a friend Cory during our senior year in college. She had been married for only a year, but I learned later that she had endured such horrible emotional and physical abuse even before she agreed to marry him. I was so disgusted by her choice to remain that I ended our friendship, citing that I could no longer sit idly by and watch her show up to school or lunch pretending not to notice a new puss-filled bruise on her face, neck, ear, eye, or forehead. To me, I was being a hypocrite to the profession of social work as well as to the definition of being a friend.

Fast forward 22 years, I found myself married and in a similar situation. However, unlike Cory, I had no friend standing on the other side of my apartment door, admonishing me to leave. Instead, I had the accusing voice of the enemy, telling me that I am “not smart” and if I shared what was happening to me- not only would I be an embarrassment to the social work profession but an embarrassing blemish to the body of Christ!

‘Your witness about the great and mighty God you serve would be a lie. Who’s going to believe how awesome God is if you are supposed to be the example? Just make it easy for yourself and everyone you care about and keep it to yourself. No one has to know that your husband is abusing alcohol and emotionally and physically abusing you. No need to share that during the first week of your “live together portion” of your marriage he held you down in a violently painful and air-restrictive chokehold. You don’t have to suffer through revealing that you became so desperate to survive that you anchored your teeth into the lower palm of his right hand taking out a small gulf of his flesh.”

The truth is, I felt cornered and trapped inside between the inescapable tight walls of my mind and living quarters that felt like an oversized jail cell. I was 900 miles away from the closest immediate family and I was no place near home. I initially shared my matter with an older, respected motherly-type member of a church I began attending nearby-but I was quickly shunned from discussing the details of my situation. I was given a subtle response that (paraphrased) “It was to be expected early in marriage and that after many years, it would eventually improve.” Truth?… I only knew to pray. When the abuse continued and escalated for 5 more months, I eventually called the former pastor (who married us) to disclose my heartache along with a contemplated plan to leave. Preparing myself to be advised to continue with prayer for strength to endure the worse portion of my marriage vows, I was pleased when my plan to separate and leave was being supported with advisement to take caution with my planning. I was also led in prayer for God’s intervening, guidance, protection and successful completion to my reaching physical safety.

With continued fasting and prayer, my heartache and pain has been replaced with gratitude as well as compassion for my abusive husband (now, thankfully “was-band”). My regret has now been replaced with the Word of Romans 8:28.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Order My New Ebook called “Cut The Apron Strings”

Hi Everyone,

I am so excited to share with you that my first Ebook is now available for pre order. It has been a vision that I have had for over twenty years and I am so greatful to God for honouring this vision

Click the book cover  below to find out more information and links for you to order the book. The cost is  $5.99 (USA)     £4.58      5.29 euros.

 

God’s Best Kept Secret ~ Being a Military Wife by Maxine Reyes


The difference between a non-military wife and a military wife is the challenges that we face when it comes to separation from our husbands, knowing that separation is inevitable. Being a dual military wife is even more challenging because we get to experience deployments multiplied by two.  Deployments take a toll on most marriages of military couples.  Deployment separation has been a key contributor or the cause of many divorces.  Ken and I have experienced hardships that challenged our relationship, but we never consider allowing those challenges to overpower our love for each other.  We have been huge supporters of each other’s careers and personal goals and we refused to let the forces of the world stop us from having the best marriage that we know we can have with God leading us.

Placing trust in God and knowing that we must keep Him at the forefront of our marriage at all times, has allowed us to face our challenges with the utmost boldness. Ken and I are definitely each other’s soul mates.  We feel one another’s pain and happiness and always find ways to make each other feel special and uplifted during unhappy times.  Our Happily Joint movement blog has allowed us to display our determination to love and care for each other for the rest of our lives while living a joyful and sacred Christian life.  Couples who know us usually compliment us and ask us our recipe to happiness.  We have written a book to share experience with others.  There is no trick to a happy marriage, but we will definitely share what works for us.  We teach resiliency in relationships to couples in order for them to have the ability to withstand the challenges of marriage and find ways to recover from difficult times.

After 19 years, we are at a beautiful point of our marriage where we know more about what makes us happy and sad. We know our priorities and are absolutely supportive of our careers and personal goals.  Ken is the most wonderful person I know and I am so grateful for his love and his adoration.  I am most grateful for the father that he is to our adorable daughter.  He is such a gentleman and I can speak all day about him in a positive way.

Success for me is persevering through my lifelong goals. We have always kept God at the forefront of our life.  Being an empowered career woman while being a wife can be challenging.  Women get treated sometimes tougher than our male counter parts so we have to work twice as hard.  I am blessed to have a husband like mine who encourages me to be a strong woman.  He empowers me to pursue my dreams and he makes me feel confident in being his wife.  My husband makes it so much easier for me to pursue my passion.  I am grateful for our relationship with Jesus, which has allowed me to be a successful mother and wife.   Our faith has taken us a long way and we look forward to growing old together.

 

 

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courtesy of Maxine Reyes

MAXINE REYES – Bio

Maxine Reyes is a burgeoning singer/songwriter/speaker whose vocal talent have embellished countless of people around the world.

Born in Kingston and raised in Manchester, Jamaica, her family sang in the community church where she was encouraged to share her special talent. With her rich and earthly Jamaican accent seasoned with grounded grace, you can see right away when she shares her infectious smile that you have just met a new friend.

These endearing qualities also helped Maxine, when she moved to Pembroke Pines, Florida as a teenager – where she began participating in local talent vocal competitions and winning on numerous occasions. It was at that point that she gained the confidence as a vocalist that allowed both her inner and outer beauty to transcend.

Voted Most Talented” of her graduating class at Miramar High School, FL. Maxine desired to pursue singing, but also having a strong sense of reality and being very mindful that is was also more important to be a positive representation of her native Jamaica, Maxine decided at that point of her life that it was much more important to secure her advance educational goals. She also felt like she had a higher calling to serve in the United States Military.

After graduating from High School, Maxine joined the United States Air Force which afforded her advanced education. However, this vibrant and energetic artist still kept her passion to share her gift of song by volunteering to sing at numerous nationally supported Military related events.

Maxine continued to not only sing whenever she can, but she also elevated her service to the Country by proudly becoming a Commissioned Officer in the United States Army and earned her Master of Arts in Management and Leadership. She is currently the Company Commander of the United States Army Recruiting Company in Orlando, FL. It is this same presentation of excellence that makes her performances a breath of fresh air to all. Maxine founded Happily Joint, Inc along with her husband. Happily Joint is an organization that helps couples deal with challenges in their relationships while living their best life with each other. Maxine and Ken know too well the challenges of keeping a relationship together as they met when they were teenagers and have been married for 18 years, both being under the age of 40. With multiple military separations some up to 15 months, the couple kept their marriage in tack and uphold an image that is admired by many. They have vowed to help others who deal with similar challenges as they have by hosting seminars and speaking to audiences interested in Maxine and Ken’s story. They are in the process of writing their first book together “The Happily Joint Guide.”

 

Additional Activities and Musical Performances:

  • Performed at sports games and ceremonies filed with dignitaries on multiple occasions when she sang the National Anthem at Orlando City Soccer, Independence Day Celebration, NBA game San Antonio Spurs vs Charlotte Bobcats at the Time Warner Arena, Ambassador of Qatar and government officials of Qatar, Fort Lauderdale Air and Sea Show, Toyota Indy 300, Miami Grand Prix and Marlins Opening ceremony.
  • She has performed for the President of the United States of America at the Miami Arena.
  • Maxine is loved by many and her broad appeal has won ardent supporters wherever she has performed. She returned home in April of 2014 after a year of serving in Operation Enduring Freedom in Qatar and Afghanistan where she entertained Coalition forces in the area where she was based.
  • Her versatility and diverse background makes her the perfect ambassador for her nation. Maxine’s style can be described as “Reggae Soul” blending sultry inspiring Inspirational love R&B/Jazz grooves with Reggae.
  • Her Patriotic song “I’ve Got You/Military Wife” which she penned after her husband’s First Sergeant was killed in action in Afghanistan in 2012 tugs at the heart and displays her writing skills and soulful vocal style. The song is perfect for any function honouring veterans, their spouses and the memories of the lives lost in the fight against terror.
  • Besides work, she is active in her community volunteering for different causes at every moment that she can. She is currently working on creating a non-profit organization, which offers mentoring and educational opportunities for the young girls. She actively supports her primary school back in Jamaica with her very own Maxine Reyes/Doctor Bird Award Program since 2000. It is a program that encourages students to work hard in school and reach for the stars in everything that they do. It fosters education, positive attitudes and selflessness. Her passion for people and her family is commendable and is noticed by the way she cares for her Soldiers and their families.

 

Social Media and contact Information

Happily Joint
Www.HappilyJoint.com
IG,FB,Twitter,Pinterest @HappilyJ

From the Heart of a Man – Ashley Taylor

Living every day, looking into a mirror” 

It took me a while to sit down and write this blog, I guess because the topic is quite personal and sensitive. If there are two things in my life that I treasure above all, it’s my relationship with God and the relationship with my wife.

When I got married, or rather when I got engaged I was only 20 years old. I took the time to make sure my proposal was amazing for my bride to be (which it was – if you don’t believe me ask her! LOL). I married at 21 and so this new life began with a young lady who I have the responsibility of loving and taking care of. My marriage didn’t start in the clouds of love, floating away into the sunset, but it started in reality. No money, living in one bedroom within a Brixton South London crack-house, and I now have to learn how to be a husband in the worst conditions. Although my wife and I were committed to each other to be together no doubt, the truth is we had to learn how to love each other.

Does that sound backwards? Well, maybe it does, maybe it doesn’t – but that was our reality. Having the questions going back and forth in both our minds – Did I make the right decision? Was I too young? Did I hear God right or wrong about this person? As I write this blog, my marriage has survived good days, bad days, arguments, laughs, a pregnancy, a miscarriage, a miracle baby, counselling, bank overdrafts, poor financial decisions, homelessness, miracle money, depression, new cities, redundancy, new homes, new jobs – but most of all, new love. You see, I had to grow up a whole lot to become a real man.

Almost being married for 6 years now, I can say that it was my relationship with God that changed my marriage. I had to force myself to ask myself the question, “Do I love her like Christ loves me?” This means, do I love her faults, forgive, cover her, and be there for her like Christ does the same for me? This question changed my perspective forever when it came to my marriage. I realised I had no right to be mean, cold, selfish and distant – because I treat Christ so awful many times, but guess what He still loves me! Wow, that’s amazing. It was when I got a revelation of the love of Jesus Christ, I was able to love my wife in a brand new way.

Though we still have many years ahead of us, I know without a doubt that we are in our best years now. I challenge any young man out there, if you want to get married, get ready to live everyday looking in a mirror. When you see your lady, get ready to see yourself: flawed & imperfect – but just like Jesus you have to pour out love and care.

 

Ashley Taylor – BIO

Ashley Taylor, 26, a dreamer & visionary favoured by God, currently resides in Nottingham, England with his wife Sabrina and son, River. Having been in Christian ministry since he was 8 years old, yet not one to be in the spotlight of church circuits and circles, Ashley recognises that God has kept him hidden. He understands that He has been called to be a major influence cross-denominationally within Christian and church environments, and is therefore ever heeding to the instruction of God found in Psalm 2:8, “Ask of Me, and I will give You The nations for Your inheritance, And the ends of the earth for Your possession.” Ashley is an active member in ministry at Heart Church – based in Nottingham, under the leadership & covering of his spiritual father, Pastor Malcolm Baxter.

 

Dealing with Depression

Deut 31:8.   Deut 32:10   Psalms 40:1~3

Depression is one of the subjects that the church sweeps and keeps under the carpet. Many Christians sit in church’s under an evil cloud of depression and because they may not here the subject preached in their local church they feel that it is something they can never share or ask for the help they need. They feel ashamed. The enemy wants to keep you in the realm of darkness so he can continue to tourment you. Please remember you are not alone.

I have experienced depression a few times through the course of my life.  Thank God I reached out for help with Christian  Councelling. Depression can be complex and vary from person to person and symptoms can persist from several weeks to months or even years in some cases.  People can be affected by so badly that it interferes with there work, social and family life.

Some of the physiological symptoms can include:

1. Continuous low mood and sadness.

2. Feeling hopeless and helpless

3. low self esteem

4. feeling tearful

5. No motivation or interest in things you once loved.

6. Finding it difficult to make decisions 

7. Not enjoying life.

8. Anxious or worried

9. Thoughts of suicide or self harm.

Some of the physical symptoms can include:

1. Moving or speaking slower than usual.

2. A change in appetite. You are eating more or less than normal.

3. Unexplained aches and pains

4. Lack of energy/sex drive

5. Disturbed sleep patterns

6. Avoid contact with family or friends.

Here are four practical tips that I have used and continue to use in dealing with depression and I pray that you will find them helpful. But please remember that if you need to get counselling then please take that step and never allow pride to hinder you from asking for help.

Tip1. Form positive new habits, breaking the old ones and distorted thinking patterns. Rewire your mind. I constantly listen to messages and speakers that challenge my thinking and I also listen to worship because it removes the emphasis from me and puts it on God.

Tip2. I love walking and so I walk 2 miles, five days a week as a way to just clear my mind, I also love water aerobics so I do this weekly along with a sauna, steam and jacuzzi treatments. I loveeeee this!😄

Tip3. I try not to spend to much time alone, so I make the effort to have positive interactions daily. I have also developed my hobbies of reading, blogging, visiting museums and travelling.  

Tip4. I also take the time to memorise scripture so I can meditate on them throughout the day.

There are some great christian counselling services available and I would encourage you to seek out their assistance. God is able to do exceedingly, abundantly and above all you may ask or think. He wants you to prosper in every area of your life and it is not his desire for you to be unhappy with the life he gave you. He wants you to have abundant life, a full life, a happy life and a rich life and by His grace dear heart you will. 

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