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Dealing with Depression

Deut 31:8.   Deut 32:10   Psalms 40:1~3

Depression is one of the subjects that the church sweeps and keeps under the carpet. Many Christians sit in church’s under an evil cloud of depression and because they may not here the subject preached in their local church they feel that it is something they can never share or ask for the help they need. They feel ashamed. The enemy wants to keep you in the realm of darkness so he can continue to tourment you. Please remember you are not alone.

I have experienced depression a few times through the course of my life.  Thank God I reached out for help with Christian  Councelling. Depression can be complex and vary from person to person and symptoms can persist from several weeks to months or even years in some cases.  People can be affected by so badly that it interferes with there work, social and family life.

Some of the physiological symptoms can include:

1. Continuous low mood and sadness.

2. Feeling hopeless and helpless

3. low self esteem

4. feeling tearful

5. No motivation or interest in things you once loved.

6. Finding it difficult to make decisions 

7. Not enjoying life.

8. Anxious or worried

9. Thoughts of suicide or self harm.

Some of the physical symptoms can include:

1. Moving or speaking slower than usual.

2. A change in appetite. You are eating more or less than normal.

3. Unexplained aches and pains

4. Lack of energy/sex drive

5. Disturbed sleep patterns

6. Avoid contact with family or friends.

Here are four practical tips that I have used and continue to use in dealing with depression and I pray that you will find them helpful. But please remember that if you need to get counselling then please take that step and never allow pride to hinder you from asking for help.

Tip1. Form positive new habits, breaking the old ones and distorted thinking patterns. Rewire your mind. I constantly listen to messages and speakers that challenge my thinking and I also listen to worship because it removes the emphasis from me and puts it on God.

Tip2. I love walking and so I walk 2 miles, five days a week as a way to just clear my mind, I also love water aerobics so I do this weekly along with a sauna, steam and jacuzzi treatments. I loveeeee this!😄

Tip3. I try not to spend to much time alone, so I make the effort to have positive interactions daily. I have also developed my hobbies of reading, blogging, visiting museums and travelling.  

Tip4. I also take the time to memorise scripture so I can meditate on them throughout the day.

There are some great christian counselling services available and I would encourage you to seek out their assistance. God is able to do exceedingly, abundantly and above all you may ask or think. He wants you to prosper in every area of your life and it is not his desire for you to be unhappy with the life he gave you. He wants you to have abundant life, a full life, a happy life and a rich life and by His grace dear heart you will. 

Worship with Me – God I look to you by Dorothy Bedford.

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Dear Father God Letters ~ A Prayer for Domestic Violence Victims 

Dear Father God,

I just pray and lift up to you any victims of domestic violence who are reading this prayer. Lord you know the shame and guilt that they feel. How hurt and stripped they feel of their dignity and self esteem. Father by your loving touch start a new work in their heart and mind. Bring about total restoration to everything they have lost and valued. 

Restore their confidence, their sense of self worth. Jesus you are touched by the feeling of their infirmity and pain. Father God bring them to a place of safety in the heart and mind. Touch them In their inner most being where they need a special touch from you. Give them the courage they need to move out of the situation they are in.

Lord from this experience show them how to use it as a stepping stone to touch others who have been in a similar situation and to help them move on with their lives, In Jesus Name Amen.

  

A Young Mother’s Question.

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I was asked a question from my other blog site ( www.jennyallensecretplace.wordpress.com) by a young wife and mother who asked “I would like to hear and find out more about finding me and still find a way to be a great mother, daughter, and the love of my man’s life….” I would like to try and answer her question.

I can totally understand where she is coming from because being a mother, daughter, wife/girlfriend is a tall order and you try to be all things to all men and that is something you cannot do or be. I do not know how old this reader is, if she is married, working, studying or any other circumstance about her but I will answer in general terms based on what worked for me.

From my own experience, before I could look after my family in an affective and meaningful way I took time out to do what I was passionate about and did the things that ministered to me as an individual. For example I loved to read so I got books and found times throughout the day to read. I also loved working out and going to Spa’s and I also loved going for walks in the park. This helped me to focus and think about things that I was worried or concerned about. It was me time. After I took those me times I was better able to take care of my family and be the best that I could be towards them because I had ministered to who I was and am.

Another suggestion is to go out with some your friends, have a girls night out. It’s important not to lose contact with other relationships that you have.  Pursue any personal projects that you may have started and not finished. Volunteer in an organisation that you believe in. Volunteering is a great way to give back to the community.

It is very very easy to keep giving as a mother and that’s not bad but it is important to also do the the things that you like to do and enjoy. Create a time slot say once a week or whatever time frame is convenient for you and do something special for yourself. Do you have someone who can babysit for you or can your husband look after your baby whilst you take some time out?

Being in a relationship with someone can be very challenging at times so you want to create special moments to build your relationship. You could arrange for someone to look after your baby whilst the both of you go on a date night. See a movie, restaurant , weekend away, do something that you both enjoy. This could be done once a month for example. It very important that the both of you also talk about what you need from each other in the relationship and take steps towards those goals.

In conclusion St John 16:7 (amp) says that The Holy Spirit is a comforter, helper and counsellor. Pray about your daily routine, ask God to give you wisdom to run your home. Pray as you do the washing, pray as you iron, pray in your children’s room and pray over your home as you tidy and clean it. It does not have to be long prayers but just pray from your heart. Solicite divine help and God will surely honour your prayers.

I trust these few suggestions are helpful to you. Be Blessed!

Religion  ~ Take The Mask Off

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I have heard this topic preached on so many times in the past but as I look back over my Christian walk over many years, I began to realise  some years ago that I substituted a relationship with Jesus Christ for religious activity during periods of my Christian walk. My religious activity covered personal pain and there was no true relationship where I could be totally honest in the place of prayer regarding how I felt about my life and the direction it was taking.

I thought the more religious activity I did the more I was pleasing God. But it was so far from the truth. I decided you know what, I am taking the religious mask off so what was underneath was exposed. 

I said God I am a mess, please come and heal my heart and all the bruising, cuts and infected wounds. It was a long process and I am still on that road. I took the first step and God honoured it. I realised that painful periods of my past had infected my relationship with my Heavenly Father and I needed healing.

A skilled surgeon knows where and how to cut with a scalpel in order to get to the root of a wound. He knows how deep to go and how much to take out. he also know how to stitch up the wound so only a hairline scare would be evident of the wound you once had. Jesus dear one, is the great physician of your soul.

God is faithful as he knows my weakness. He gave and is continuing to give me beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for morning and the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.

I shared this to encourage you dear heart to not be afraid to take the mask off. Do not let pride convince you to keep the mask on. Expose what is underneath and let the Lord heal you. Be honest and open before him in the place of prayer. Let your healing begin.

🙏 Lord Jesus I lift up this precious reader to you. As they have read these words touch them in the place of their heart where they need healing. Help them Lord to take the mask off to begin the healing process with you. Wash them with the water of your word in Jesus name. Amen .

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