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Are Your Negative Habits Holding You Back?

 

We all are guilty of having some bad habits and how many times have you promised yourself that you were going to do something about them. I have personally come to realize that bad habits can hinder someone from making the progress they desire in life.

Bad habits are like the handbrake of a car, you are ready to go, but you can’t drive off because you have not released the handbrake (habit) that can provide an invisible block to receiving the best in life.

Pause for a moment and think of someone whose bad habits irritate you…….. Have you thought of someone? 🙂 Well think about it, you can see someone else’s pattern and how it affects them now think about how your harmful habits are affecting you and the perception other people may have of you. Please take time to think about this and how you intend to move forward and change or replace them.

Consider these 3 tips:-

1. Join forces with someone so they can support you in your journey. See them as an accountability partner.
2. Consider surrounding yourself with people who live the way you desire to live.
3. Cut out as many triggers as possible.

Changing habits does not occur over night it starts one step and one day at a time. Take action and start adjusting from today.

Taking Back Who You Are!

During periods of life you can give ourself away in the belief that the person you give yourself to will not take you for granted. When you give the best of yourself to someone and you have not taken the time to qualify the relationship, hurt and pain is inevitable.

I want to share with you three things that you may need to consider so you can take back who you are and start living the life that you were born to live. These three things are just to give you the push you may need to start this important process.

1. Learn to say no without feeling guilty.

2. Start investing in YOU ( take a course, start reading books that will empower you to make a change).

3. Use your failures and past mistakes to propel you forward.

Each of these points can take a life time to work out but the most important thing is for you to start working on yourself and for you to become the best person that you can be.

Restoring Hope

I remember a time in my life when I lost all hope. It felt like the night would never leave and the morning would never come. Where was my hope when I needed it.

I had to pick myself up, look  in the mirror and speak hope to my self. There are times in life that we have to restore hope to our heart by speaking over it. The bible shares a story of how David had to encourage himself in the Lord because the people around him had lost faith in who he was.

Restoring your hope after a personal failure is a lonely path to walk because it also affects your self-esteem and confidence. One of the painful experiences I walked through was went I failed my nursing exams in my early twenties. It was  an awful time and affected me for many years after the event. I could not share how I felt with anyone because I felt so ashamed and that shame became the blanket that I hid  under.

After some years I took the step of removing the blanket called shame and started walking the long path called hope. I took that step and kept walking and it led me to where I am today, passionate about the gifts God blessed me with.

Don’t let the shame and the failings of your past keep you bound in the present and cloud the future that awaits you. Take a step and get the help you need to restore your hope and passion to live your life to the full.

During this season of my life I had to work on my self-esteem and confidence. I put some of the steps I took in a course. I am encouraging you just like a friend would, to sign up and start your journey of restoring your confidence in your gifts, talents and life by clicking the link below. It’s the first step to a new beginning!

Click HERE to start the journey!

 

 

There is only ONE you & that makes you unique

 

You are not one in a million, you are the only one on the planet. Comparing yourself to other people is such a waste of time because you have a unique vision and calling with a unique set of gifts and that makes you a rare gem.

Let me share with you as to why you are so unique and some important things that you need to remember:

1. No one else on the planet has your figures.

2. You have a unique set of tastes, experiences and life.

3. Appreciate your own uniqueness and the uniqueness in others and this will help to eliminate comparisons.

4. Do not get caught up in what people say about you as they only know a portion of your life and not everything.

5. You are an original so don’t be a poor photocopy of someone else.

Always remember you were born to shine in life and not to work in the shadow of someone else’s light.

Living a Vibrant Life in 2017 ~ Comfort Zones

Throughout the month of January I will be sharing with you on how you can live a vibrant life in 2017.

The first thing you have to realise is that breaking out of your comfort zone is key and the change you are looking for is outside your comfort zone. You cannot continue to do the same thing and expect a different result.

Your comfort zone will keep you caged, limited and bound. My question to you is why and what is keeping you in that zone? Is it fear, anger, regret, jealousy, bitterness, low self esteem, lack of confidence or resentment?

If you are going to experience and live the life you were created to live it is important for you to deal with the issues in your life that keep you will  limited.

Be determined to break out because your destiny depends on it.

I have listed some of my other blog posts below that will encourage you to break out and to be all that you were created to be.

 

Steps to a New Beginning!

3 Things To Remember In Times Of Trouble

 

Steps to a New Beginning!

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The year 2016 was an eventful year in so many ways. As a global family we experienced many changes. For example, Britain leaving the European market and Donald Trump being elected the new president of The United States. As well as these global changes, each of us have experienced things that we can learn from.

What 3 valuable lessons did you learn in 2016 that can prepare you for a productive 2017 emotionally, physically and spiritually? It maybe helpful for you  to just take some time and reflect on your experiences so you can answer this question for yourself.

Always remember that no matter what you have been through a new beginning is ALWAYS possible but you have to put in the work so that your desire becomes a reality. Yes it may be painful but it will be worth it!!!!

Let me share 3 tips with you that will help you move into a new year.

1. Keep a log of and deal with your positive and negative mental chatter.

  1. How many times do you beat yourself up during the day?
  2.  Are you constantly thinking critical thoughts about yourself and others?
  3. How many positive thoughts do you have during the day?

What have you learnt about your mental processes and how will you move on from it?

2. Feed your mind with the thoughts, words and images that are most consistent with who you want to be, what you want to have and what you want to achieve.

Vision boards and affirmations are a great starting point.

 

3.Be determined to create a new beginning for yourself  .

Creating a new beginning for yourself has nothing to do with your age. You can begin again at any age and at anytime. Cultivate a new beginning by  learning from any mistakes you made in 2016.

My prayer is that these 3 tips will assist you in building in a better 2017.

Below is a blog post I wrote which will encourage you to over come any fears you may have about 2017. Please also comment, like and subscribe to my blogs!

Conquer Your Fears ~ Enter Your Destiny! Overcoming Your Fears

Entering the rest of God

 

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Hebrews chapter 4 talks of entering the rest of God. I don’t know about you but I have spent many years labouring in different areas of my life and I though it would never end. It tiring, draining and exhausting. Our daily prayer can be “Lord when is this situation going?” When is this financial drought going to end? When is this situation that I have been in for five years going to end? when, when,  Lord when ?

Well His word promises that we will enter into the rest of God if we keep leaning on and believing his word.  Spiritual perseverance is crucial to entering the rest of God. Keep believing and keep pushing.

© Jenny Allen & Heart of Refuge  2011 – 2016. Unauthorised use and /or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and owner is strictly prohibite

Only God Knows!

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Jeremiah 29:11 ~ For I know the thoughts that I think towards you , saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

This is one of my favourite verses because it speaks of God’s thoughts towards me. The way He thinks about me is different to how everyone else thinks of me.

People will always have their opinion about how you look, what you do, what you say, your background, your work etc but ultimately it is what God thinks about you that counts.  His thoughts are beautiful towards you and his aim is to give you hope and build your faith in the situations you face in life.

Think it not strange dear one regarding the trials ( 1 Peter 1:7) you are currently going through because they form part of your journey of life. God is not shocked or surprised and he has promised to walk on the waters with you. Just take his hand in prayer, praise and meditation of His word.

© Jenny Allen & Heart of Refuge  2011 – 2016. Unauthorised use and /or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and owner is strictly prohibite

Jesus Came

 

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The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the broken-hearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised, to preach the acceptable year of the Lord.   Luke 4:18~19

Jesus came into the synagogue on the sabbath day and read from the book of Isaiah. After reading he said  “This day is this scripture fulfilled in your ears”.

This is one of my favourite scriptures. Jesus came to heal a broken world with a hurting heart. He did not only come to heal us physically but he also came to heal us emotionally. The broken heart, the hearts held in bondage, and kept in fear.

Your broken heart can be mended today. Take a moment to pray and ask God to come and heal your heart. Take those important steps to heal from bitterness, resentment, anguish, unforgiveness and in any other area where you hurt as it will only destroy you.

Be made whole In Jesus Name.

 

Dad’s United – A Tribute to Fathers

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I want to salute fathers who love and look after their children. I know of a few men who have not seen their children for years, who pay child support but the mothers are using the children as a weapon by not letting the children see them.

It is a painful thing to watch and see men suffer like this. The presence of a father is vital in the lives of children. What ever happened between the parents, should not block  a father  from seeing his children. It is a grave mistake and will have repercussions on  the mother in years to come.

Yes there are “dead beat” dads out there and this post is not for them, but not every father is dead beat, not every father chooses not to take his responsibilities seriously. There are fathers who  work two or three jobs to make sure they provide. Lets take the time to salute them.

If your father was someone who did not fulfil his responsibilities and you find it difficult to celebrate him then find someone else who provided that father figure for you and celebrate them, appreciate them, love them.

Many many people have been wounded by their father and it has affected their self perception, self image and their progress in life and even their relationships with their own children. But there is help today. If you are a father reading this, drop your pride and look for help and healing in your own relationship with your own father so you can be a better father to your own children because they need you. Your own wounding is wounding them. Please do what you need to do to heal and then love on your children or at least start to build a bridge. Remember no one is perfect but at least make a start.

Then there is a father of all fathers, one who understands every beat of your heart, who can read the messages in each tear that you shed. My heavenly Father…….ahh what can I say. “Father God thank you, Thank you. Thank you for giving me your love letter, the bible, thank you for using it to show me how you feel and think about me. Thank you for picking me up and dusting me off. Thank you for being there and providing for me evn though I ignored you when you were trying to get my attention. Thank you for warming my heart with your love and care.”

My dad was not perfect but he has matured like a good wine and he makes me laugh. I call him “Prince Freddie”.

If you can take a moment and call your dad or the father figure in your life and tell them how much you love and appreciate them. Fathers, take a moment now and call you children, tell them how much you love and care for them. Keep this love cycle going.  You are to be celebrated!

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