Heart of Refuge

Unveiling The Hidden Beauty Of Your Heart

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Taking Back Who You Are!

During periods of life you can give ourself away in the belief that the person you give yourself to will not take you for granted. When you give the best of yourself to someone and you have not taken the time to qualify the relationship, hurt and pain is inevitable.

I want to share with you three things that you may need to consider so you can take back who you are and start living the life that you were born to live. These three things are just to give you the push you may need to start this important process.

1. Learn to say no without feeling guilty.

2. Start investing in YOU ( take a course, start reading books that will empower you to make a change).

3. Use your failures and past mistakes to propel you forward.

Each of these points can take a life time to work out but the most important thing is for you to start working on yourself and for you to become the best person that you can be.

What is a Friend? (Story time! )

When I was younger I found it so difficult to make friend as I was painfully shy and I had a stutter. Some of the people I hung around with use to laugh at me and one person in particular use to pick on me during my first year in secondary school. It was so awful. My self esteem could not sink any lower than it already was.

I had a friend called Jasmine as primary school, she was my bestie and she would always hang out with me during play times and she alway stuck by me. I can never forget her!

I think friendships change as we get older because our needs change and things happen to us in life. Thinking about Jasmine made me think about the importance of great friendships. Below are some tips I tend to use when I am considering a friendship and I would like to share them with you.

A friend is….

  1. someone you can trust, who will not judge you
  2. someone who respects you and your time
  3. someone who respects your boundries
  4. someone who listens
  5. someone who gives you space when you need it and they are not overbearing
  6. someone who respects your right to change and grow.

In the comments below share with me your important aspects of friendship.

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Transitioning Alone  

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As the earth continues to spin on its axis our lives also continue to spin. No twenty four hour period is the same. A mobile phone we used in 1999 will not work in 2016. Today’s latest iPhone will not work in 2025, why?? because of transitions.

Life is consistently changing and whether we like it or not we are adapting to it. We have to or we will not be able to live our daily life. During periods of transitions it is also a time for us to evaluate our relationships and ask ourselves will this relationship allow me to transition with them or will I have to transition alone?

It can be a scary thought but it is something we all at one point or another in our life have to consider. Transitioning alone is daunting but if we are to fulfill our destinies or God given vision then it may have to be a step we may have to take.

We do not want to look back over our life and see regret littered along the way because of fear of taking a step. Take this opportunity to consider your relationships, prayerfully evaluate them and decide if they can walk with you or will you have to transition alone.

You are not Alone.

  
I remember during a very difficult period many years ago I felt so alone and isolated. My main comfort and still is, my bible. Oh my goodness, what would my life be like without this precious book. I have read it, listen to it on tape, CD, MP3 and YouTube. My bible has been my lifeline. 

I have highlighted, written all over it, drawn in it and some of the pages have dried tears stains on it. I love my bible. It has become a precious friend. If I need to find out about something I go straight to it and study it to find an answer. When I needed comfort I read the Psalms. If I  needed reassurance of who I was and am I read Ephesians. If I needed wisdom I read proverbs etc etc.

Sorry I got carried away there, back to my main point. During that difficult period I was reading Hebrews and I came across the latter part of Hebrews 13:5 and verse 6. I read it in the amplified bible and it blew me away. It says

……. For he (God) Himself has said, I will not in anyway fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. (I will) not, (I will) not, (I will) not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake you nor let (you) down ( relax my hold on you)! (Assuredly not).

” So we take comfort and are encouraged and confidently and boldly say, The Lord is my Helper; I will not be seized with alarm ( I will not fear or dread or be terrified). What can man do to me?”

This brought such a comfort to me and is one of my favourite bible verses. The creator of the heavens and the earth encouraged me by saying he will not leave me helpless or forsake me. The deflated ballon of my heart began to inflate with boldness and renewed strength.

Dear Heart allow these precious verses to put courage back into your heart and remind you that you are not alone. You have not been forsaken and you have not been overlooked because He who created the universe is watching over you carefully and cares for you lovingly. 

  

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