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Taking Back Who You Are!

During periods of life you can give ourself away in the belief that the person you give yourself to will not take you for granted. When you give the best of yourself to someone and you have not taken the time to qualify the relationship, hurt and pain is inevitable.

I want to share with you three things that you may need to consider so you can take back who you are and start living the life that you were born to live. These three things are just to give you the push you may need to start this important process.

1. Learn to say no without feeling guilty.

2. Start investing in YOU ( take a course, start reading books that will empower you to make a change).

3. Use your failures and past mistakes to propel you forward.

Each of these points can take a life time to work out but the most important thing is for you to start working on yourself and for you to become the best person that you can be.

3 Reasons To Keep Dreaming Big

 

Our imagination is something that we tend to neglect or take for granted because we have not be taught that it is a gate way to accomplishing our goals.

Your imagination is a great creative tool that can take you from seeing something in your mind’s eye to actually seeing it as a physical reality. That creative ability is God given and the bible shows us what God did with His ability in Genesis 1.

There  are so many people who dreamed big and it became their reality. Here are some examples:

  • Oprah Winfrey ~ The OWN Network
  • Tyler Perry ~ The Tyler Perry Studios
  • Walt Disney ~ Disney Land Amusement Park
  • Sylvester Stallone ~ The Rocky Film Series

Let me share with you 3 reasons why you should keep dreaming:

  1. Your imagination has absolutely no limits. If there are limits in place then you put them there.
  2. Dreaming big costs you nothing! Now….. isn’t that a bargin its FREE.
  3. Don’t allow anyone to stop you from dreaming big because of their own negativity or lack of confidence.

 

You are what you think and You are what you dream! However it is important to remember that behind every dream there is also physical work you have to do to prepare, this must never be over looked so make sure you have plans in place.

Finally… Keep this quote in mind:

BIG DREAMS

……. Start Inside

…….Take Courage

…….Involves Effort

…….Includes Mistakes

…….Builds Character

……..Are Achivable

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What is a Friend? (Story time! )

When I was younger I found it so difficult to make friend as I was painfully shy and I had a stutter. Some of the people I hung around with use to laugh at me and one person in particular use to pick on me during my first year in secondary school. It was so awful. My self esteem could not sink any lower than it already was.

I had a friend called Jasmine as primary school, she was my bestie and she would always hang out with me during play times and she alway stuck by me. I can never forget her!

I think friendships change as we get older because our needs change and things happen to us in life. Thinking about Jasmine made me think about the importance of great friendships. Below are some tips I tend to use when I am considering a friendship and I would like to share them with you.

A friend is….

  1. someone you can trust, who will not judge you
  2. someone who respects you and your time
  3. someone who respects your boundries
  4. someone who listens
  5. someone who gives you space when you need it and they are not overbearing
  6. someone who respects your right to change and grow.

In the comments below share with me your important aspects of friendship.

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Are you sabotaging your gifts?

You are born with a gift that should be shared with everyone you come into contact with. You are gifted and your were born  to shine.

Unfortunately there are people who do not appreciate the gifts that they are born with and will go as far as to sabotage it. Below are 3 reasons why someone may self sabotage their gift.

  1. Self Hate ~ This is such  powerful emotion that affects a person’s perception of who they are and their body image.
  2. Comfort zone ~ Everyone has a comfort zone they retreat to when a new challenged is faced. The unfortunate thing is that nothing grows in comforts zones and it will keep you in a very small box where expression is not possible because of fear.
  3. Fear ~ This can be a root that holds a person back and holds their gift hostage as some people are afraid of succeeding.

Dear reader if  you are someone who has hidden your gift for any of the reasons above or for any other reason then I am challenging you to take steps to change your mind and heart towards your gift.

Take time to examine why you self sabotage what God has placed in side of you because only YOU can share and bless others with what God placed inside of you.

 

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F.E.A.R ~ False Evidence Appearing Real

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The acronym for fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. This is one of my favourite acronyms because it sums up the essence of what fear really is. Don’t get me wrong I think a bit of fear is good if you are taking a step to try something new, having that kind of edge can be helpful. However fear that is prolonged, crippling and paralysing is destructive and intervention is needed.

Remember the acronym says that fear give false evidence. Many of the things that we are in fear of never happens, its false evidence. So whenever you feel afraid or fear is having an usual grip on you take a moment to examine it and ask yourself the question is this fear painting a false picture of an event that may never happen? If you need help to  unravel it then get help but don’t allow yourself to be in bondage by such an emotion.

Remember your destiny and vision is too important to be trapped by false evidence that appears to be real.

 

 

Others see what you don’t see

At times having to take a good look at ourselves can be a painful process but it can also be rewarding.

The Johori window is a tool which is used to understand how the world sees us. There are things about our personality that we do not see but others can see. We all have blind spots in our personalities.

How do we respond when those close to us speak the truth to us in Love. Do we go into denial or do we become offended? For a moment step back and just think about what someone has said. Have you heard the same comment said about you before. Is there a pattern that keeps being repeated?

I experienced this several times and I decided not to become offended but took a step back and said are these people seeing something about me that I am not seeing?  I decided to pray about it and make changes. In the end it all worked out for my good.

If you have heard the same comment repeated to you about areas of your personality don’t become offended step back, think and pray about it and make the nessary changes. In the end it will work out for your good.

Are you persuaded? 

Today I was meditating on 2 Timothy 1:12

“…… For I know in whom I have believed and am persuaded that he is able to keep that which I have committed unto him against that day”

There are so many  things that we commit to the Lord daily. We commit our families, our homes, our finances, the list goes on. When we commit things to God we say Lord you take it because it is to much for me to carry alone, the weight is heavy.

Paul was fully persuaded that the things he committed to God  that God was well able to take care of them. Paul was persuaded.

At times my persuasion  is never fully persuaded, because I keep looking, doubting and analysing what I have committed. Does that happen to you?

To day I had to pray, Lord I commit my mind, will and emotions to you. Help me Lord to know that they are safe with you. I also prayed for my heart, as Proverbs says out of it flows the issues of our individual lives. Lord keep my heart, help me to stay fixed on you, help me to be fully persuaded dispite what I see. Have you prayed that before?

If you have not then join me in committing your mind, will and emotions to God afresh because he is capable of keeping them safe. Together let us endeavour to be fully persuaded as Paul was about God’s commitment to him.

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