Unveiling The Hidden Beauty Of Your Heart

Tag: bereavement

Black Lives Matter V All Lives Matter

 

Image from www.cogic.org

Image from www.cogic.org

My heart has been hurt by the killings of African-amercian men in the United states by the police. It is heart breaking to watch these events play out on my tv screen in London. After the news outlets move on to the next news item  what happens to these families. Their sense of injustice, pain and lack of answers must be excruciating.

Yes all lives matter in theory but when I look at the realty of that statement all lives do not appear not to matter. The equality  and justice for all is not being reflected. The value of the lives of some citizens appears to be of higher value if you belong to a particular community and lower if you belong to another.

Earlier this year I visited Macon in Georgia and as I looked at the buildings and streets that James Brown, Otis Reading and Little Richard visited I tried to imagine what it must have been like for them living and breathing in air filled with segregation.

Yes great progress has been made in so many areas but the fundamentals of living in a society that stand equality and justice for all is still a distant dream. Watching the news reports in 2016 has not changed since the news reports of early 1960’s. Its the same fifty plus years on. Why is it the same? its the same because we have a group of people still fighting for their right to be heard and understood by the country they live in. They are not being heard and understood. Understanding will only start to come when the shoe is placed on the  foot of  those who walk by in silence and and turn their heads and hearts away as if it not happening.

Yes all lives matter but some lives more than others are being lost in an environment that’s judges based on skin colour. RIP to all those who lost their lives in situations where their lives did not matter.

© Jenny Allen & Heart of Refuge  2011 – 2016. Unauthorised use and /or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and owner is strictly prohibite

Sam Sarpong – His Passing

I was really saddened  by the passing of Sam Sarpong who died aged 40 on Tuesday 27th October 2015. He apparently took his own life by jumping off a bridge in California.

Sam was a supermodel, actor and host for MTV.

It reminded me of the importance of seeking help when life gets too much or when anyone is unable to cope with their life.  Lets take a moment in our prayer time to pray for those who may not be coping well  and that they seek the help they need.

Prayer – Father God I lift up Sam’s family to you. I pray that you will bring comfort to them like only you can do and help them through this difficult time. In Jesus name. Amen

  Sam with his sister, June Sarpong. MBE

Jenny Allen’s Voice ~ 3 Myths about Domectic Violence (Part 2)

Image from thecustodyminefield.blogspot.com

Following on from my previous post I will be sharing 3 additional myths.

Myth 4 ~ Children are not at risk from being hurt or injured.

Men who abuse their partners are more likely to abuse the children in the home.

Myth 5 ~ The victim must have done something to provoke the abuse,

Abuse is a pattern of intimidation and isolation to keep the victim under their power and control.  Victims describe their abusers as Dr Jekyl and Mr Hyde in character.

Myth 6 ~ If the abuse is so bad the victim should just leave.

For the victim leaving is the most dangerous time. The abuser will tell his victim  that he will kill them if they leave or use the children as a threat for custody which can force the victim to stay.

The video below shares the story of a women who was in an abusive relationship. She also explains why it is difficult for women to leave. Please take the time to watch.

References www.agape-aid.org and www.usatoday.com(accessed 25.08.2015)

A Young Mother’s Question.

image from sheknows.com

I was asked a question from my other blog site ( www.jennyallensecretplace.wordpress.com) by a young wife and mother who asked “I would like to hear and find out more about finding me and still find a way to be a great mother, daughter, and the love of my man’s life….” I would like to try and answer her question.

I can totally understand where she is coming from because being a mother, daughter, wife/girlfriend is a tall order and you try to be all things to all men and that is something you cannot do or be. I do not know how old this reader is, if she is married, working, studying or any other circumstance about her but I will answer in general terms based on what worked for me.

From my own experience, before I could look after my family in an affective and meaningful way I took time out to do what I was passionate about and did the things that ministered to me as an individual. For example I loved to read so I got books and found times throughout the day to read. I also loved working out and going to Spa’s and I also loved going for walks in the park. This helped me to focus and think about things that I was worried or concerned about. It was me time. After I took those me times I was better able to take care of my family and be the best that I could be towards them because I had ministered to who I was and am.

Another suggestion is to go out with some your friends, have a girls night out. It’s important not to lose contact with other relationships that you have.  Pursue any personal projects that you may have started and not finished. Volunteer in an organisation that you believe in. Volunteering is a great way to give back to the community.

It is very very easy to keep giving as a mother and that’s not bad but it is important to also do the the things that you like to do and enjoy. Create a time slot say once a week or whatever time frame is convenient for you and do something special for yourself. Do you have someone who can babysit for you or can your husband look after your baby whilst you take some time out?

Being in a relationship with someone can be very challenging at times so you want to create special moments to build your relationship. You could arrange for someone to look after your baby whilst the both of you go on a date night. See a movie, restaurant , weekend away, do something that you both enjoy. This could be done once a month for example. It very important that the both of you also talk about what you need from each other in the relationship and take steps towards those goals.

In conclusion St John 16:7 (amp) says that The Holy Spirit is a comforter, helper and counsellor. Pray about your daily routine, ask God to give you wisdom to run your home. Pray as you do the washing, pray as you iron, pray in your children’s room and pray over your home as you tidy and clean it. It does not have to be long prayers but just pray from your heart. Solicite divine help and God will surely honour your prayers.

I trust these few suggestions are helpful to you. Be Blessed!

My Brother’s Laughter

My brother was so funny he made me laugh so much with his crazy singing and corny jokes. Hilarious! He use to call me on the phone just to make me laugh and I miss that so much.

Sadly he died on 6th November 2012 aged 46 years old. When My younger brother called me and told me the news it felt like I was hit by a lorry and beat up by Mike Tyson all at once. The pain of my heart was excruciating and I felt numb. It was a numbness that I cannot describe.

One of the many things that helped to sooth my broken heart was the laughter we always shared. He use to beg me to stop reminding him of our childhood escapades as he was literally crying down the phone with laughter.

One of the last things we did together was pray and sing the hymn ” Abide with me”. I prayed for him and as I was praying I heard him crying down the phone. When I finished he said that my prayer was so beautiful.

Rest in peace my David and thank you for the laughter. Xx

Powered by WordPress & Theme by Anders Norén