Heart of Refuge

Unveiling The Hidden Beauty Of Your Heart

Greatness Starts By Taking The First Step!

When I started Heart of Refuge about five years ago, I never imagined it would grow to this point and it is still in its infant stages.

I was shy and nervous and hid behind blog posts where my emotions and thoughts would be felt by reading my words. I took blogging seriously after my brother died  in 2012 as I found it a great way to express my feelings of loss.

I know I am on my path to greatness and it started with a small step five years ago. Let me ask you a question, have you taken your first step to greatness and if not then what is hindering you?

It is so important to deal with the emotional blockages that are hindering you so you can take that first step. I pray that this blog post has encouraged you to start your journey. If you love writing, then write. If you love singing, sing. If you love designing then design, the lists go on. You were born with greatness inside of you and it is so important for you to start expressing your passion  because someone is waiting on your gift.

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3 Reasons To Keep Dreaming Big

 

Our imagination is something that we tend to neglect or take for granted because we have not be taught that it is a gate way to accomplishing our goals.

Your imagination is a great creative tool that can take you from seeing something in your mind’s eye to actually seeing it as a physical reality. That creative ability is God given and the bible shows us what God did with His ability in Genesis 1.

There  are so many people who dreamed big and it became their reality. Here are some examples:

  • Oprah Winfrey ~ The OWN Network
  • Tyler Perry ~ The Tyler Perry Studios
  • Walt Disney ~ Disney Land Amusement Park
  • Sylvester Stallone ~ The Rocky Film Series

Let me share with you 3 reasons why you should keep dreaming:

  1. Your imagination has absolutely no limits. If there are limits in place then you put them there.
  2. Dreaming big costs you nothing! Now….. isn’t that a bargin its FREE.
  3. Don’t allow anyone to stop you from dreaming big because of their own negativity or lack of confidence.

 

You are what you think and You are what you dream! However it is important to remember that behind every dream there is also physical work you have to do to prepare, this must never be over looked so make sure you have plans in place.

Finally… Keep this quote in mind:

BIG DREAMS

……. Start Inside

…….Take Courage

…….Involves Effort

…….Includes Mistakes

…….Builds Character

……..Are Achivable

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why I Love to Inspire People

Inspiring a person is one of my favourite things to do. There is no other feeling than paying someone a sincere, heartfelt compliment and see the change it brings to their body posture and the frown lines on their face change into a smile.

For a many years I had been on the receiving end of other people’s disapproval and knew first hand the hurt and pain it caused. After receiving healing in those areas, I decided to consciously become someone who would inspire and encourage people to become the best that they could be.  This is one of the reasons  I decided to start blogging.

When you encourage or inspire someone they feel bold enough to take a step toward fulfilling their dreams and they begin to change the way they see themselves. You actually create beautiful ripples in this persons world as  a compliment can make a life time impact and alter the course of their life.

This is why I took the decision to become and train as a life coach as my passion is the raise the self-esteem and confidence of people.

With you in mine I wrote a foundational course about building personal self-esteem and confidence.   It will give you a great start to seeing your self-worth and move you from the cocoon of  your life into an amazing butterfly. So let me help you on this journey by CLICKING HERE  . See you soon!

 

 

Why I was Afraid To Change

Change, who likes change?  The thought of changing can cause some people to become paralysed and desire to stay wrapped up in the blanket called a comfort zone. Comfort zones are warm, cosy and inviting but it will never bring about the much needed change you need in life.

I have gone through several periods of change in my  life because I saw first hand what staying in a comfort zone does to someone. It was so painful to watch. This gifted individual began to give up on life, they found the blanket of their comfort zone too cosy and warm to leave,  which resulted in their God given gift becoming dormant and buried. They were afraid to change because change would challenge them to do something with their life and take responsibility for their current situation.

A comfort zone can actually assasinate your potential, so I urge you to put the gun down and unwrap yourself from that blanket.

Let me give you 3 things to consider to move from the fear of change to embracing change.

  1. Its important to understand that change is a risk you have to take in order to better yourself.
  2. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real with the key word  being False.
  3. Conquering your fears positions you to enter your destiny.

 

I lived in so much fear when I was younger about a range of things, but I came to a point where I became tired of living that kind of life and my desperation pushed me to taking the steps to change. I also realised that my fear of change was linked to my low self esteem.

So let me ask you this, are you desperate for change in your life? If you are ready then sign up to my self esteem course by clicking the link below.

 

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What is a Friend? (Story time! )

When I was younger I found it so difficult to make friend as I was painfully shy and I had a stutter. Some of the people I hung around with use to laugh at me and one person in particular use to pick on me during my first year in secondary school. It was so awful. My self esteem could not sink any lower than it already was.

I had a friend called Jasmine as primary school, she was my bestie and she would always hang out with me during play times and she alway stuck by me. I can never forget her!

I think friendships change as we get older because our needs change and things happen to us in life. Thinking about Jasmine made me think about the importance of great friendships. Below are some tips I tend to use when I am considering a friendship and I would like to share them with you.

A friend is….

  1. someone you can trust, who will not judge you
  2. someone who respects you and your time
  3. someone who respects your boundries
  4. someone who listens
  5. someone who gives you space when you need it and they are not overbearing
  6. someone who respects your right to change and grow.

In the comments below share with me your important aspects of friendship.

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Restoring Hope

I remember a time in my life when I lost all hope. It felt like the night would never leave and the morning would never come. Where was my hope when I needed it.

I had to pick myself up, look  in the mirror and speak hope to my self. There are times in life that we have to restore hope to our heart by speaking over it. The bible shares a story of how David had to encourage himself in the Lord because the people around him had lost faith in who he was.

Restoring your hope after a personal failure is a lonely path to walk because it also affects your self-esteem and confidence. One of the painful experiences I walked through was went I failed my nursing exams in my early twenties. It was  an awful time and affected me for many years after the event. I could not share how I felt with anyone because I felt so ashamed and that shame became the blanket that I hid  under.

After some years I took the step of removing the blanket called shame and started walking the long path called hope. I took that step and kept walking and it led me to where I am today, passionate about the gifts God blessed me with.

Don’t let the shame and the failings of your past keep you bound in the present and cloud the future that awaits you. Take a step and get the help you need to restore your hope and passion to live your life to the full.

During this season of my life I had to work on my self-esteem and confidence. I put some of the steps I took in a course. I am encouraging you just like a friend would, to sign up and start your journey of restoring your confidence in your gifts, talents and life by clicking the link below. It’s the first step to a new beginning!

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There is only ONE you & that makes you unique

 

You are not one in a million, you are the only one on the planet. Comparing yourself to other people is such a waste of time because you have a unique vision and calling with a unique set of gifts and that makes you a rare gem.

Let me share with you as to why you are so unique and some important things that you need to remember:

1. No one else on the planet has your figures.

2. You have a unique set of tastes, experiences and life.

3. Appreciate your own uniqueness and the uniqueness in others and this will help to eliminate comparisons.

4. Do not get caught up in what people say about you as they only know a portion of your life and not everything.

5. You are an original so don’t be a poor photocopy of someone else.

Always remember you were born to shine in life and not to work in the shadow of someone else’s light.

Learning to love you = Managing your time

We all live very busy lives that makes time management a real challenge. However time management is needed so we can keep our life in some sort of order.

Our time is precious and we often give it away too freely to others who do not appreciate it. Those moments are valuable as we can never get them back. When you value your time you value who you are and it is important that we keep an eye on who we give it to.

Let me share some tips with you on managing your time and loving you.

  1. Don’t over extend your self ~ this is so important to remember as it  can lead to burn out. If something does not fit into your schedule then learn how to refuse it graciously and move on it. An over extended calendar does not do you any favours.
  2. Schedule sessions where you can have some down time and relax. you could take a walk, work out, go see movie etc. Down time is important as it gives your mind and body a chance to rejuvenate itself and rest.
  3. Learn how to say no without feeling guilty.

If you have not started then start today by loving you and mange your time.

 

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Failures flaws & weakness have  purpose

Are you sabotaging your gifts?

 

Flaws, Failures and Weaknesses have a Purpose

Everyone has flaws and weaknesses of some kind and everyone has failed at something. No one is perfect. Do you realise that they have a purpose? Let me share three things that will show you their value with you.

  1. Your failures are valuable life teachers where lessons can be learnt for your future.
  2. observing the failures and weaknesses of others can save you from experiencing the same pain and teaches the observer valuable lessons.
  3. its important not to condemn someone else’s weakness or failure in an area where you are strong because they may have a strength in an area where you are weak.

I want to challenge you today not to despise your flaws but to take the time to work on them and polish them into your strengths and from there your journey in life can only get better.

Are you sabotaging your gifts?

You are born with a gift that should be shared with everyone you come into contact with. You are gifted and your were born  to shine.

Unfortunately there are people who do not appreciate the gifts that they are born with and will go as far as to sabotage it. Below are 3 reasons why someone may self sabotage their gift.

  1. Self Hate ~ This is such  powerful emotion that affects a person’s perception of who they are and their body image.
  2. Comfort zone ~ Everyone has a comfort zone they retreat to when a new challenged is faced. The unfortunate thing is that nothing grows in comforts zones and it will keep you in a very small box where expression is not possible because of fear.
  3. Fear ~ This can be a root that holds a person back and holds their gift hostage as some people are afraid of succeeding.

Dear reader if  you are someone who has hidden your gift for any of the reasons above or for any other reason then I am challenging you to take steps to change your mind and heart towards your gift.

Take time to examine why you self sabotage what God has placed in side of you because only YOU can share and bless others with what God placed inside of you.

 

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