Heart of Refuge

Unveiling The Hidden Beauty Of Your Heart

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What is a Friend? (Story time! )

When I was younger I found it so difficult to make friend as I was painfully shy and I had a stutter. Some of the people I hung around with use to laugh at me and one person in particular use to pick on me during my first year in secondary school. It was so awful. My self esteem could not sink any lower than it already was.

I had a friend called Jasmine as primary school, she was my bestie and she would always hang out with me during play times and she alway stuck by me. I can never forget her!

I think friendships change as we get older because our needs change and things happen to us in life. Thinking about Jasmine made me think about the importance of great friendships. Below are some tips I tend to use when I am considering a friendship and I would like to share them with you.

A friend is….

  1. someone you can trust, who will not judge you
  2. someone who respects you and your time
  3. someone who respects your boundries
  4. someone who listens
  5. someone who gives you space when you need it and they are not overbearing
  6. someone who respects your right to change and grow.

In the comments below share with me your important aspects of friendship.

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Restoring Hope

I remember a time in my life when I lost all hope. It felt like the night would never leave and the morning would never come. Where was my hope when I needed it.

I had to pick myself up, look  in the mirror and speak hope to my self. There are times in life that we have to restore hope to our heart by speaking over it. The bible shares a story of how David had to encourage himself in the Lord because the people around him had lost faith in who he was.

Restoring your hope after a personal failure is a lonely path to walk because it also affects your self-esteem and confidence. One of the painful experiences I walked through was went I failed my nursing exams in my early twenties. It was  an awful time and affected me for many years after the event. I could not share how I felt with anyone because I felt so ashamed and that shame became the blanket that I hid  under.

After some years I took the step of removing the blanket called shame and started walking the long path called hope. I took that step and kept walking and it led me to where I am today, passionate about the gifts God blessed me with.

Don’t let the shame and the failings of your past keep you bound in the present and cloud the future that awaits you. Take a step and get the help you need to restore your hope and passion to live your life to the full.

During this season of my life I had to work on my self-esteem and confidence. I put some of the steps I took in a course. I am encouraging you just like a friend would, to sign up and start your journey of restoring your confidence in your gifts, talents and life by clicking the link below. It’s the first step to a new beginning!

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There is only ONE you & that makes you unique

 

You are not one in a million, you are the only one on the planet. Comparing yourself to other people is such a waste of time because you have a unique vision and calling with a unique set of gifts and that makes you a rare gem.

Let me share with you as to why you are so unique and some important things that you need to remember:

1. No one else on the planet has your figures.

2. You have a unique set of tastes, experiences and life.

3. Appreciate your own uniqueness and the uniqueness in others and this will help to eliminate comparisons.

4. Do not get caught up in what people say about you as they only know a portion of your life and not everything.

5. You are an original so don’t be a poor photocopy of someone else.

Always remember you were born to shine in life and not to work in the shadow of someone else’s light.

Learning to love you = Managing your time

We all live very busy lives that makes time management a real challenge. However time management is needed so we can keep our life in some sort of order.

Our time is precious and we often give it away too freely to others who do not appreciate it. Those moments are valuable as we can never get them back. When you value your time you value who you are and it is important that we keep an eye on who we give it to.

Let me share some tips with you on managing your time and loving you.

  1. Don’t over extend your self ~ this is so important to remember as it  can lead to burn out. If something does not fit into your schedule then learn how to refuse it graciously and move on it. An over extended calendar does not do you any favours.
  2. Schedule sessions where you can have some down time and relax. you could take a walk, work out, go see movie etc. Down time is important as it gives your mind and body a chance to rejuvenate itself and rest.
  3. Learn how to say no without feeling guilty.

If you have not started then start today by loving you and mange your time.

 

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Failures flaws & weakness have  purpose

Are you sabotaging your gifts?

 

Flaws, Failures and Weaknesses have a Purpose

Everyone has flaws and weaknesses of some kind and everyone has failed at something. No one is perfect. Do you realise that they have a purpose? Let me share three things that will show you their value with you.

  1. Your failures are valuable life teachers where lessons can be learnt for your future.
  2. observing the failures and weaknesses of others can save you from experiencing the same pain and teaches the observer valuable lessons.
  3. its important not to condemn someone else’s weakness or failure in an area where you are strong because they may have a strength in an area where you are weak.

I want to challenge you today not to despise your flaws but to take the time to work on them and polish them into your strengths and from there your journey in life can only get better.

Are you sabotaging your gifts?

You are born with a gift that should be shared with everyone you come into contact with. You are gifted and your were born  to shine.

Unfortunately there are people who do not appreciate the gifts that they are born with and will go as far as to sabotage it. Below are 3 reasons why someone may self sabotage their gift.

  1. Self Hate ~ This is such  powerful emotion that affects a person’s perception of who they are and their body image.
  2. Comfort zone ~ Everyone has a comfort zone they retreat to when a new challenged is faced. The unfortunate thing is that nothing grows in comforts zones and it will keep you in a very small box where expression is not possible because of fear.
  3. Fear ~ This can be a root that holds a person back and holds their gift hostage as some people are afraid of succeeding.

Dear reader if  you are someone who has hidden your gift for any of the reasons above or for any other reason then I am challenging you to take steps to change your mind and heart towards your gift.

Take time to examine why you self sabotage what God has placed in side of you because only YOU can share and bless others with what God placed inside of you.

 

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Living A Vibrant Life in 2017 – Serving Others

Taking time to serve others is so important as it moves us from being self centered to focusing on others . Please remember it is important to take time to look after yourself, but it is also important to give some of your God given gift to uplifting others.

Serving others can take the form of voluntary work, stopping to help someone with directions or doing some work at your church. there are a host of this you can do.

Here are 3 others we should consider serving others:

  1. Serving others transforms who you are for the better from the inside out.
  2. It’s an opportunity to do small things with great love.
  3. When you give of yourself you begin to feel grateful for what you have and the opportunity to share it.

Take a moment and think of the last time you extended yourself to serve someone else without looking for something in return. If you can’t think of a time then I encourage you to start today.

 

Living a Vibrant Life in 2017~Identify Blessings Daily

Each day that we wake up in the morning is a blessing. It is an opportunity to express gratitude to the one who created us and it also gives you a chance to commit your day to God in prayer. Before you go to bed identify another blessing that you can be grateful for from your busy day.

I have come to realize that it is important to identify at least one blessing in everyday, even if I have had a bad day there is always at least one thing good I can be thankful for.

Being grateful daily will build a positive stronghold in your life and it will eventually change the way you see your life and the lives of those around you. So start today and begin to identify daily blessings, try it for the next 21 days and see how your life and attitude changes.

There is a lot of negativity in the world so join me in changing our immediate world one daily blessing at a time.

Living a Vibrant Life in 2017 ~ Comfort Zones

Throughout the month of January I will be sharing with you on how you can live a vibrant life in 2017.

The first thing you have to realise is that breaking out of your comfort zone is key and the change you are looking for is outside your comfort zone. You cannot continue to do the same thing and expect a different result.

Your comfort zone will keep you caged, limited and bound. My question to you is why and what is keeping you in that zone? Is it fear, anger, regret, jealousy, bitterness, low self esteem, lack of confidence or resentment?

If you are going to experience and live the life you were created to live it is important for you to deal with the issues in your life that keep you will  limited.

Be determined to break out because your destiny depends on it.

I have listed some of my other blog posts below that will encourage you to break out and to be all that you were created to be.

 

Steps to a New Beginning!

3 Things To Remember In Times Of Trouble

 

Dreams Do Become A Reality ~ My First E-book

 

I started 2016 with a list of goals that I just prayed over and said “God over to you”. I did not know how some of them would be accomplished but I wrote the vision and made it plain.

Well one of my goals was to publish my first eBook. At the time it looked like a huge mountain but God connected me with a class Dawniel Winningham was teaching about ebooks. So I paid for the class and listen and took notes. Then I made contact with Julia Royston, a publisher and she helped me to publish my first book on 19th September. I am in the process of writing other books and can’t wait to launch them in 2017

When  you have a vision, God will connect the dots and cross the T’s. It was a goal that appeared to be so far fetched for me but I wrote it down anyway.

If you had a goal in 2016 that  has not happened then make sure you write it down as your first goal for 2017. Don’t discard or give up on it. Keep praying over it and keep going!

Here is the link to download my eBook on amazon  Click here .It deals with issues that we may have had we our parents and the dangers of passing on those issues to our own children, if we do not deal with them. at the end of each chapter are exercises that you can do.

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