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What is a Friend? (Story time! )

When I was younger I found it so difficult to make friend as I was painfully shy and I had a stutter. Some of the people I hung around with use to laugh at me and one person in particular use to pick on me during my first year in secondary school. It was so awful. My self esteem could not sink any lower than it already was.

I had a friend called Jasmine as primary school, she was my bestie and she would always hang out with me during play times and she alway stuck by me. I can never forget her!

I think friendships change as we get older because our needs change and things happen to us in life. Thinking about Jasmine made me think about the importance of great friendships. Below are some tips I tend to use when I am considering a friendship and I would like to share them with you.

A friend is….

  1. someone you can trust, who will not judge you
  2. someone who respects you and your time
  3. someone who respects your boundries
  4. someone who listens
  5. someone who gives you space when you need it and they are not overbearing
  6. someone who respects your right to change and grow.

In the comments below share with me your important aspects of friendship.

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Black Lives Matter V All Lives Matter

 

Image from www.cogic.org

Image from www.cogic.org

My heart has been hurt by the killings of African-amercian men in the United states by the police. It is heart breaking to watch these events play out on my tv screen in London. After the news outlets move on to the next news item  what happens to these families. Their sense of injustice, pain and lack of answers must be excruciating.

Yes all lives matter in theory but when I look at the realty of that statement all lives do not appear not to matter. The equality  and justice for all is not being reflected. The value of the lives of some citizens appears to be of higher value if you belong to a particular community and lower if you belong to another.

Earlier this year I visited Macon in Georgia and as I looked at the buildings and streets that James Brown, Otis Reading and Little Richard visited I tried to imagine what it must have been like for them living and breathing in air filled with segregation.

Yes great progress has been made in so many areas but the fundamentals of living in a society that stand equality and justice for all is still a distant dream. Watching the news reports in 2016 has not changed since the news reports of early 1960’s. Its the same fifty plus years on. Why is it the same? its the same because we have a group of people still fighting for their right to be heard and understood by the country they live in. They are not being heard and understood. Understanding will only start to come when the shoe is placed on the  foot of  those who walk by in silence and and turn their heads and hearts away as if it not happening.

Yes all lives matter but some lives more than others are being lost in an environment that’s judges based on skin colour. RIP to all those who lost their lives in situations where their lives did not matter.

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The President of the United States of America – The Pressures

obama1Living in London and observing what is currently going on in The United States has made me consider what it  must be really like being the President.

The daily pressure and extreme scrutiny from media outlets and social media must be excruciating. Not to mention the pressure from groups lobbying for their causes, national and personal security, international affairs, daily consistent criticism and the daily threats from opposing factors at home and abroad. What a workload! Of course he has a team around him to help carry the weight but the overall responsibility is his and his alone.

Barack Obama has set a precedent with the use of social media in terms of using it at grass root levels to gather support and momentum for his campaigns and it has worked well. He has broken so many barriers the first being the first African American to become president.

But I always wonder behind his great smile and charisma what are his pressures and challenges that we don’t see. When he leaves his day job and retreats to his private quarters, what pressing issues trouble him the most? The secrets he has to carry must be a burden.

I was watching Sky news last night and a news pundit stated that they did not like his policies but they admired the way he has stood up underneath the pressure of the job. The pressures and stress comes with the  territory.

It’s easy to criticise but how would you cope with the daily responsibility of approximately four hundred million people not including those abroad, trying to make  decisions for the best and being a fair representative for all the people. Not easy! The decisions made may go against his personal convictions but because of the nature of the job and the people his represents he has to make them.

Some of us manage small teams in the work place and have to balance out the team needs. How would you feel managing a few hundred million people and the fact that they all want something from you? What happens when you don’t deliver?

The bible encourages us to pray for those in authority.  If you are someone that prays lets pray for our leaders and their families on a regular basis because they are under pressures that we would never in a million years understand.

1st Timothy 2:1 – 2a

“… I urge that entreaties and prayers, petitions and thanksgivings, be made on behalf of all men, for kings

and all who are in authority…”

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