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Taking Back Who You Are!

During periods of life you can give ourself away in the belief that the person you give yourself to will not take you for granted. When you give the best of yourself to someone and you have not taken the time to qualify the relationship, hurt and pain is inevitable.

I want to share with you three things that you may need to consider so you can take back who you are and start living the life that you were born to live. These three things are just to give you the push you may need to start this important process.

1. Learn to say no without feeling guilty.

2. Start investing in YOU ( take a course, start reading books that will empower you to make a change).

3. Use your failures and past mistakes to propel you forward.

Each of these points can take a life time to work out but the most important thing is for you to start working on yourself and for you to become the best person that you can be.

Flaws, Failures and Weaknesses have a Purpose

Everyone has flaws and weaknesses of some kind and everyone has failed at something. No one is perfect. Do you realise that they have a purpose? Let me share three things that will show you their value with you.

  1. Your failures are valuable life teachers where lessons can be learnt for your future.
  2. observing the failures and weaknesses of others can save you from experiencing the same pain and teaches the observer valuable lessons.
  3. its important not to condemn someone else’s weakness or failure in an area where you are strong because they may have a strength in an area where you are weak.

I want to challenge you today not to despise your flaws but to take the time to work on them and polish them into your strengths and from there your journey in life can only get better.

God wants you to Win 

Psalms 119 is the longest Psalm in the bible. Its theme is that God’s word is authorative, reliable and powerful. It shows us the integrity of His word.

I once did a daily bible reading plan of the whole book of Psalms and I found it to be an invaluable source of encouragement and spiritual strength.

One thing I learnt from this Psalm is that God wants me to win.  When you feel like falling he will hold you up and keep you lifted. The bible talks about a great cloud of witness’ that are watching and waiting for you to cross the finishing line and enter what the father has for you.

This amazing chapter will show you the authority of God’s word has in your life, its reliability in your life and the power it brings to your life.

No one wants you to win more than father God and he will prove it to you as you read Psalms 119. Allow his precepts, commandments and statutes to be your guide to live a successful and victories life.

My challenge to you today is to take 15-20mins to read this precious Psalms. Trust me you will be blessed!

 

 

How to Forgive Yourself ~ Letting Go of the Past Part 2 

Letting Go of your Past is a key step to walking in self forgiveness. Here are a few key points to consider if you are struggling in this area.

  1. Realise that you are not  perfect.
  2. Do not dwell on past mistakes. The key word here is dwell because dwelling on the past strips you from living in the present. Your life becomes stagnant.
  3. Plan for a bright future today by not being stiffed by the past.
  4. Investigate your past choices. What emotional triggers do you have? Investigate how your emotions during the event that led up to the incident that caused you to not be able to forgive yourself. What were your feelings?

It is important to realise  that forgiving yourself is crucial to enjoying a bright future. The chain of guilt shame and embarrassment can weight heavy on your spirit and emotions. You deserve better and you deserve to be free of this weight. Do not let anyone keep you bound to your past because you do deserve to experience freedom and liberty in Jesus.

Take a moment to pray and ask the Holy Spirit to help you forgive yourself.

 

Communicating forgiveness to Yourself and Others. Part 3

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Scriptures: Matthew 6:12-15    Mark 11:25

Communicating forgiveness to yourself and others is vital for you to be able to embrace your future. Prayerfully consider the following three points as you take this important journey.

  1. Let people into your life. If you need to ask for help to help you forgive yourself and other then look for it. A few years ago I had to get that help as I could not forgive myself for things that had taken place in my past. I thank God that I did, because it untied the invisible chains of guilt and shame and released me into my God given future.
  2. Write forgiveness letters. In the past I have prayerfully written a list of people that I need to forgive. The list was so long I was embarrassed!!! Try it and then take the list to God in prayer and give each person to him and ask him to help you release them from you heart. Remember forgiveness is between you and God!
  3. Ask for forgiveness from others.  If you feel that you have wronged someone ask them to forgive you. It can help to resolve issues and free you in the process.

My prayer for you is that as you take each of these steps that you will truly experience the freedom self forgiveness and forgiving others brings.

The Act of Forgiveness by Monica Ambersley

 

What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness is an act of strength. Strength that enable you to move on from that situation or person; not tied to resentment and anger which can turn into bitterness.

Why hold on to resentment for that person when we can let go and live? I am not saying that it will be easy to forgive; it may be hard, but the longer you hold on to it the harder it will be to forgive.

I have heard people say, “Forgive and forget.” Forgive and forget can mean that you forgive the offender and move on with your life, because God expects us to forgive, using godly wisdom.

The Bible says “Forgive those who has trespass against us.” (Matthew 6:12).
What does that mean? Trespass is an act of offence against a person. In order for us to receive God’s blessings and forgiveness when we do wrong; we have to forgive. The sad thing is that when we do not forgive, we leave unresolved issues behind on loved ones who do not have the opportunity to say, “I forgive you.”

Forgiveness brings peace and freedom and it releases you from the power of that person. The only way that you know you have genuinely forgiven that person, is when that person walks into the room and you feel nothing negative; only forgiveness.

We all have one life; a life that should be filled with peace and tranquillity instead of anger or resentment. It is impossible to move on with a heart that is not forgiving and live your life fully.

Is it right for a person to take over one’s life and emotion with an unforgiving heart? Forgive, and move on, in order to let go and live your life more abundantly. We should also, forgive ourselves of mistakes that we have made in the past. The past is the past. We should not stay in the past, but use the past to learn from the mistakes!

You may be saying, “It’s easy for you to say because you have never been in my position!” Yes, you may be right. But it does not make one’s hurt emotion different from another person. We have all experienced hurt, rejection and pain from loved ones, strangers and people. No situation is different to another person when it comes down to hurting emotions. Forgiveness brings healing and with healing brings joy. The act of forgiveness sees blood pressure and heart rate lowered, reducing the levels of depression and anxiety.
Resentment is self-inflicted and will always hurt you more than the person who you are angry with. In fact, the person may have moved on with their life over the years and you’re still worrying about it!!

According to the Bible, we have to forgive so that God can forgive us (Matthew 18:22). We cannot expect God to forgive us when we are holding on to grudges with someone else (Ephesians 4:32).

The key factor is to take a leap of faith and forgive in order to receive your healing through forgiveness.

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How to forgive yourself ~ Practising self forgiveness. Part 1

Forgiving someone for the wrongs they have do to us can be challenging but forgiving ourselves can be a greater challenge. The bible talks about the importance of forgiveness in Matthew 6:14-15 and Mark 11:25.

Here are 4 reasons why it is important to practice self forgiveness.

  1. Diagnose why you need to forgive yourself  ~ Are your memories making you feel guilty and hindering your from self forgiveness?
  2. Accept that failures do not make you a bad person ~ remember failure does not make you a bad person.
  3. Do not be afraid to start again ~ Learn from your experiences and past mistakes and move on. Use them as stepping stones to a brighter future.
  4. Adapt a new mind set by learning from past mistakes ~ Set Goals for your future.

 

My prayer is that from this post you will take the necessary steps to start forgiving yourself  and live the life you were created to live.

 

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