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Month: June 2015

The President of the United States of America – The Pressures

obama1Living in London and observing what is currently going on in The United States has made me consider what it  must be really like being the President.

The daily pressure and extreme scrutiny from media outlets and social media must be excruciating. Not to mention the pressure from groups lobbying for their causes, national and personal security, international affairs, daily consistent criticism and the daily threats from opposing factors at home and abroad. What a workload! Of course he has a team around him to help carry the weight but the overall responsibility is his and his alone.

Barack Obama has set a precedent with the use of social media in terms of using it at grass root levels to gather support and momentum for his campaigns and it has worked well. He has broken so many barriers the first being the first African American to become president.

But I always wonder behind his great smile and charisma what are his pressures and challenges that we don’t see. When he leaves his day job and retreats to his private quarters, what pressing issues trouble him the most? The secrets he has to carry must be a burden.

I was watching Sky news last night and a news pundit stated that they did not like his policies but they admired the way he has stood up underneath the pressure of the job. The pressures and stress comes with the  territory.

It’s easy to criticise but how would you cope with the daily responsibility of approximately four hundred million people not including those abroad, trying to make  decisions for the best and being a fair representative for all the people. Not easy! The decisions made may go against his personal convictions but because of the nature of the job and the people his represents he has to make them.

Some of us manage small teams in the work place and have to balance out the team needs. How would you feel managing a few hundred million people and the fact that they all want something from you? What happens when you don’t deliver?

The bible encourages us to pray for those in authority.  If you are someone that prays lets pray for our leaders and their families on a regular basis because they are under pressures that we would never in a million years understand.

1st Timothy 2:1 – 2a

“… I urge that entreaties and prayers, petitions and thanksgivings, be made on behalf of all men, for kings

and all who are in authority…”

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Parents Apologise to your Children.

  

Parenting is a role that no one is prepared for. You can read numerous books on being a parent, watch lots of videos and even take parenting classes. To a certain degree this helps but nothing fully prepares you for the task ahead.

As adults we can look back on our own relationships with our parents some parts of it were good and some bad. Parental negative words and wounding have affected us in more ways than we care to realise. I know of a few people who are striving not to be everything their parents said they would turn out to be. In essence they are fighting against those negative words in their mind, heart and soul.

No parent is perfect and because of this, some time ago I sat my own adult children down and apologied to them. We had a long discussion and at the end of it they felt and appreciated that I heard them and it went someway in liberating them.

Some parents may never do that because they are the parent and why should they apologise for things that have happen. Well, if you do not hear your child out without becoming defensive as a parent you are creating a wound in them that will never heal. I am not saying this is the case for every family situation and parents should not go around apologing for everything but it is important that as parents we listen, listen to heart of our children. This should be done after much consideration and prayer. Each situation is measured by its own merit.

As a parent think for a moment about your relationship with your parents. What do you wish your parents would have considered about you? Before we judge our children so harshly, think about your relationship with your parents and then think and consider your relationship with your children. If there are any cycles then you must think about breaking them so it does not go down another generation and affect your grandchildren and subsequent generations. 

You are not perfect so why do we expect our children to be perfect. Parents make mistakes and often times will never own up to it or apologise for it. This is food for thought and I trust this post has got you thinking.

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Relax and allow me to lead you.

  

Psalms 32:8 ~ I the Lord will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you.

I am just starting to learn salsa and within the dance the man is the lead dancer with the woman following.

During a routine the teacher was teaching, Unwittingly I was trying to lead and it brought confusion to the routine. My dance partner said to me “relax and allow me to lead you”. When he said that I embarrassingly said ok! When we started the routine again and I followed we were both in step and in tune to the music. There were no errors. He was a very good lead and at the end of the routine he said I did very well.

Isn’t that the same with God, we want to lead until our whole life is out of order then when we see the mess we go back in prayer and ask God to fix it so we can align our steps with his. 

How out of step are we? Are we missing the beat of the music trying to dance our own way to what we think we hear?

As my dance partner said to me and God is saying to you  “relax, and allow me to lead you”

Peace, Be Still

Each of us go through dry areas in our lives that cause our soul and spirt to become parched. That Job that seemed exciting is now troublesome. The relationship that we once yearned for has lost it’s excitement and passion. Life never brings the fulfilment we often expect. 

People believe once I can become rich all my issues will be solved, no more worries. Some Rich people will tell you that their problems started when they became rich. Single people will say if I could fine Mr Right and get married and settle down then my life will be complete. Some married people may tell you that they felt more alone and unfulfilled married than single. Life has many dichotomies.

In Life it is so important to stay close to your oasis. All hell can be breaking loose on the outside but within you is a source that holds you firm and centred. For many people it can be different things but for me it is my Christian faith.

I pray that any challenging situation your are going through, that in it or through it you will find peace.

The Charleston South Carolina Church Massacre

When I first heard about this horrific incident I was so shocked. The victims were doing bible study in the basement of their church and welcomes this young man into the study. He was apparently with them for an hour and then he opened fire and murdered nine people.

The victims were all respected members of the AME church and in the community. They would have gone about their normal lives that day and keeping in mind that they would be attending bible study that night.

I saw an interview with the three children whose mother was killed they said that at this moment everything was surreal. It had not sunk in yet that their mother was gone. She will not see them graduate, marry or see her grandchildren. What kind of world are we living in?

My heart really goes out to the victims families. By all accounts they were people who loved people and they had generosity of heart. They have left a legacy of love, kindness and generosity.

Our churches are no longer safe havens as they once were. Our world has and is continuing to change an at an alarming rate. Crimes that we could never have imagined are taking place. 

When I listed to this story on the news, my mind went back to the American Deep South that was littered with lynchings, segregation and in your face hate. If we could take our modern day phone and travel back in time to the 1950’s especially, what scences would the phone have recorded?  Would we have video footage of Emmet Till being kidnapped? What about the murder of the freedom riders in Missisippi? What would we see?

It now appears that the ordinary man in the street has to protect himself by recording any interaction with the police and uploading it on social media. Without this we would not know the truth of what happened to so many black people who were arrested by police and die in police custody. The camera on a phone has come to the defence of many a citizen and has replaced what the law should be doing and that is to protect. It is very sad but our world is hurting and bleeding.

Dear reader let us continue to pray for the relatives of those massacred in Charlston, South Carolina and pray out of this awful and deplorable situation some healing in some way will begin to take place.

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