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The Principles of Goal Setting!

 

 

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.” —Andrew Carnegie

“Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.” —Pablo Picasso

“You have to set goals that are almost out of reach. If you set a goal that is attainable without much work or thought, you are stuck with something below your true talent and potential.” —Steve Garvey

I am already thinking about what I want to do and where I want to be in 2018. Setting goals is important for giving your life and future, direction. Your goals are a road map to success and give life to your dreams and vision.

As a life coach I have shared goal setting principles in varing degrees with my clients and I am excited to share the basics of these principles with you, so before you write your goals consider the following:

  1. Clarity – A clear, measurable goal is more achievable than one that is poorly defined. Be Specific!
  2. Challenge. The goal should have a level of difficulty in order to motivate you toward the goal.
  3. Commitment. You will need to put effort and commitment into meeting your goal. Increasing accountability by sharing your goal with someone you trust.
  4. Feedback. Set up a method to receive information on your progress toward a goal. For example If you desire to lose  40 pounds in six months and it is proving challenging to achieve then it is better to adjust the difficulty of your goal mid-way through the timeline than to give up on the goal.
  5.  Task complexity. If a goal is especially complex,   make sure you give yourself enough time and steps to give you the best chance at completing it.

You can email me at admin@heartofrefuge.org to let me know how you are getting on!

My Gift to you ~ To receive my 7 steps to setting goals sheet CLICK HERE

 

 

 

Why I Became a Life Coach!

Life coaching is something I have been doing for many years with out realizing that I was actually doing it. I love the challenge of motivating and coaching someone to see that best in themselves and for them to run with the vision and dream in their heart!

A life coach can help you to:

1. Make substantial personal change
2.Balance work and family
3.Reduce your stress levels
4.Find direction and support during transition
5. Help you move forward with something you have put off for far too long
6.Move forward by being a sounding board and receive feedback
7.Receive motivation and have accountability
8.Accomplish a dream or something important to you
9. Overcome chaos and create a simpler, more organized life
10. Discover your passions and values
11.Have a deeper sense of purpose
12.Design a life plan so you can accomplish your business and personal goals.
13.Improve relationships
14. Have more passion, happiness and fun in life so you can live a fulfilled life.

A life coach will also be your cheer leader who will coach you to win in life. I am your life coach and I will coach you to WIN!!

Here is the link to my Youtube video where I share my 3 reasons for becoming a coach and don’t forget to subscribe!!: CLICK HERE

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Book Review: “Everything” by Janine Cummings

I belong to an awesome Facebook woman’s book club called “Women Aspiring for More” led by Tammy Donaldson.  We recently read and reviewed a book called “Everything” by Janine Cummings.

This book shares the painful journey of Janine losing the love of her life,  who she calls “everything” throughout the book. It describes in detail the emotional pain she felt as she realised the relationship was coming to an end. I felt  the book provided a safe environment for her healing process to begin as Janine effectively and engagingly  poured her emotions out on paper.

Below are some of the points I shared whilst reviewing the book in the book club. I realised that as women we experience these same emotions when we feel we are losing a significant other or some thing precious in our life is ending:

  • Janine describes her desperation to holding on to a relationship that was not working and how she was willing to lower herself to become whatever “everything” wanted in order to keep him.
  • Its the story of a woman who also experienced redemption because after losing the love of “everything” she found HIS  love, the love of God.

I really commend Janine for wearing her heart on her sleeves  and would recommend this book  as a great read, as it demonstrates the process of a woman finding herself and her identity after the loss of  “everything”

 

Take a moment to check out the links below:

To purchase Janine’s Book CLICK HERE

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Greatness Starts By Taking The First Step!

When I started Heart of Refuge about five years ago, I never imagined it would grow to this point and it is still in its infant stages.

I was shy and nervous and hid behind blog posts where my emotions and thoughts would be felt by reading my words. I took blogging seriously after my brother died  in 2012 as I found it a great way to express my feelings of loss.

I know I am on my path to greatness and it started with a small step five years ago. Let me ask you a question, have you taken your first step to greatness and if not then what is hindering you?

It is so important to deal with the emotional blockages that are hindering you so you can take that first step. I pray that this blog post has encouraged you to start your journey. If you love writing, then write. If you love singing, sing. If you love designing then design, the lists go on. You were born with greatness inside of you and it is so important for you to start expressing your passion  because someone is waiting on your gift.

If this blog post has helped you please consider emailing me at admin@heartofrefuge.org to share you thoughts.

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3 Reasons To Keep Dreaming Big

 

Our imagination is something that we tend to neglect or take for granted because we have not be taught that it is a gate way to accomplishing our goals.

Your imagination is a great creative tool that can take you from seeing something in your mind’s eye to actually seeing it as a physical reality. That creative ability is God given and the bible shows us what God did with His ability in Genesis 1.

There  are so many people who dreamed big and it became their reality. Here are some examples:

  • Oprah Winfrey ~ The OWN Network
  • Tyler Perry ~ The Tyler Perry Studios
  • Walt Disney ~ Disney Land Amusement Park
  • Sylvester Stallone ~ The Rocky Film Series

Let me share with you 3 reasons why you should keep dreaming:

  1. Your imagination has absolutely no limits. If there are limits in place then you put them there.
  2. Dreaming big costs you nothing! Now….. isn’t that a bargin its FREE.
  3. Don’t allow anyone to stop you from dreaming big because of their own negativity or lack of confidence.

 

You are what you think and You are what you dream! However it is important to remember that behind every dream there is also physical work you have to do to prepare, this must never be over looked so make sure you have plans in place.

Finally… Keep this quote in mind:

BIG DREAMS

……. Start Inside

…….Take Courage

…….Involves Effort

…….Includes Mistakes

…….Builds Character

……..Are Achivable

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why I Love to Inspire People

Inspiring a person is one of my favourite things to do. There is no other feeling than paying someone a sincere, heartfelt compliment and see the change it brings to their body posture and the frown lines on their face change into a smile.

For a many years I had been on the receiving end of other people’s disapproval and knew first hand the hurt and pain it caused. After receiving healing in those areas, I decided to consciously become someone who would inspire and encourage people to become the best that they could be.  This is one of the reasons  I decided to start blogging.

When you encourage or inspire someone they feel bold enough to take a step toward fulfilling their dreams and they begin to change the way they see themselves. You actually create beautiful ripples in this persons world as  a compliment can make a life time impact and alter the course of their life.

This is why I took the decision to become and train as a life coach as my passion is the raise the self-esteem and confidence of people.

With you in mine I wrote a foundational course about building personal self-esteem and confidence.   It will give you a great start to seeing your self-worth and move you from the cocoon of  your life into an amazing butterfly. So let me help you on this journey by CLICKING HERE  . See you soon!

 

 

Why I was Afraid To Change

Change, who likes change?  The thought of changing can cause some people to become paralysed and desire to stay wrapped up in the blanket called a comfort zone. Comfort zones are warm, cosy and inviting but it will never bring about the much needed change you need in life.

I have gone through several periods of change in my  life because I saw first hand what staying in a comfort zone does to someone. It was so painful to watch. This gifted individual began to give up on life, they found the blanket of their comfort zone too cosy and warm to leave,  which resulted in their God given gift becoming dormant and buried. They were afraid to change because change would challenge them to do something with their life and take responsibility for their current situation.

A comfort zone can actually assasinate your potential, so I urge you to put the gun down and unwrap yourself from that blanket.

Let me give you 3 things to consider to move from the fear of change to embracing change.

  1. Its important to understand that change is a risk you have to take in order to better yourself.
  2. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real with the key word  being False.
  3. Conquering your fears positions you to enter your destiny.

 

I lived in so much fear when I was younger about a range of things, but I came to a point where I became tired of living that kind of life and my desperation pushed me to taking the steps to change. I also realised that my fear of change was linked to my low self esteem.

So let me ask you this, are you desperate for change in your life? If you are ready then sign up to my self esteem course by clicking the link below.

 

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What is a Friend? (Story time! )

When I was younger I found it so difficult to make friend as I was painfully shy and I had a stutter. Some of the people I hung around with use to laugh at me and one person in particular use to pick on me during my first year in secondary school. It was so awful. My self esteem could not sink any lower than it already was.

I had a friend called Jasmine as primary school, she was my bestie and she would always hang out with me during play times and she alway stuck by me. I can never forget her!

I think friendships change as we get older because our needs change and things happen to us in life. Thinking about Jasmine made me think about the importance of great friendships. Below are some tips I tend to use when I am considering a friendship and I would like to share them with you.

A friend is….

  1. someone you can trust, who will not judge you
  2. someone who respects you and your time
  3. someone who respects your boundries
  4. someone who listens
  5. someone who gives you space when you need it and they are not overbearing
  6. someone who respects your right to change and grow.

In the comments below share with me your important aspects of friendship.

Reminder: Don’t forget to sign up for my self esteem course CLICK HERE

Restoring Hope

I remember a time in my life when I lost all hope. It felt like the night would never leave and the morning would never come. Where was my hope when I needed it.

I had to pick myself up, look  in the mirror and speak hope to my self. There are times in life that we have to restore hope to our heart by speaking over it. The bible shares a story of how David had to encourage himself in the Lord because the people around him had lost faith in who he was.

Restoring your hope after a personal failure is a lonely path to walk because it also affects your self-esteem and confidence. One of the painful experiences I walked through was went I failed my nursing exams in my early twenties. It was  an awful time and affected me for many years after the event. I could not share how I felt with anyone because I felt so ashamed and that shame became the blanket that I hid  under.

After some years I took the step of removing the blanket called shame and started walking the long path called hope. I took that step and kept walking and it led me to where I am today, passionate about the gifts God blessed me with.

Don’t let the shame and the failings of your past keep you bound in the present and cloud the future that awaits you. Take a step and get the help you need to restore your hope and passion to live your life to the full.

During this season of my life I had to work on my self-esteem and confidence. I put some of the steps I took in a course. I am encouraging you just like a friend would, to sign up and start your journey of restoring your confidence in your gifts, talents and life by clicking the link below. It’s the first step to a new beginning!

Click HERE to start the journey!

 

 

There is only ONE you & that makes you unique

 

You are not one in a million, you are the only one on the planet. Comparing yourself to other people is such a waste of time because you have a unique vision and calling with a unique set of gifts and that makes you a rare gem.

Let me share with you as to why you are so unique and some important things that you need to remember:

1. No one else on the planet has your figures.

2. You have a unique set of tastes, experiences and life.

3. Appreciate your own uniqueness and the uniqueness in others and this will help to eliminate comparisons.

4. Do not get caught up in what people say about you as they only know a portion of your life and not everything.

5. You are an original so don’t be a poor photocopy of someone else.

Always remember you were born to shine in life and not to work in the shadow of someone else’s light.

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